There are few women in pop culture whom I see fit to be role models for the younger generation of girls we’re raising up today.
One of the few who absolutely fits the bill is Sadie Robertson.
Since making her first appearances as a teenager on her family’s A&E hit series Duck Dynasty, Sadie has grown into a beautiful, respectable young woman who knows a thing or two about connecting with others.
As part of her Live Original motivational speaking tour (because that’s what every girl does at 20 years old), Sadie recently launched a new personal blog which she plans to use as a platform for “heart-to-hearts” and honest conversations with those following her journey.
The very first blog, titled “A Passionate Pursuit,” was posted on July 31, and y’all, she got really REAL, really fast.
The Dancing With the Stars runner-up has always been open about her relationships, heartbreak and ultimate pursuit of Jesus. But this post put things into a whole new perspective, once again crowning her as role model of the century.
Talking about her failed relationship with former boyfriend Blake Coward, Sadie writes about how they were so “passionate,” and how that’s ultimately what destroyed them.
“We were so…’passionate’—and to me, it seemed like that couldn’t possibly be a negative thing, because I heard the word passion at church all the time. That was a huge LIE and created so much confusion for me. I thought our connection was so deep because we created this false love for ourselves that said it was okay to constantly fight like cats and dogs, scream hateful words and cry till our eyes were swollen. All we’d have to do afterwards is share a kiss, make up and then boom—our relationship would be stronger than ever. That was wonderful and all…until the next throw down came which was inevitably not too far around the corner.”
Sadie believes this pattern derives from our modern-day culture, which influences young women to be “passionate,” and convinces them that not only is this cycle of fighting and making up considered normal, but I’d go as far as to say that culture paints it to be desired.
“We would go through this unhealthy pattern of “I hate you, I love you. I hate that I love you.” The world makes that seem like such a normal, attractive concept through movies and music, but let me tell you, it definitely is not. We figured out the hard way that all it leaves you with is a lot of hurt, loneliness and confusion.
You can go with the media’s version of passion, but I’m speaking from experience here when I say that even if it survives and the relationship lasts, you will be living for temporary moments of happiness and gratification instead of true joy.”
It goes without saying, but Sadie boasts inspiring wisdom that is far beyond her years. It’s real talk and Truth like this that our girls desperately need to be soaking up and holding on to.
She explains how it’s true that relationships aren’t always sunshine and roses, but there’s a difference between working through bad times in a manner that is proactive, and living in “temporary survival mode” as you hold onto something destructive.
Sadie reveals that it was after yet another “intense fight” with her boyfriend that she did what she should have done long before: She turned to God’s word.
“I clicked on my Bible app and I re-read 1st Corinthians chapter 13,” she writes.
The verse is one of the most quoted passages of all time:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
“This is when I decide[d] to seek truth and invited these words to tear down walls of lies that had been built up for so long. I remember comparing the conversation I just had with my boyfriend to the words I was reading in the bible, and let me tell you…it was the furthest things from the words we ended with…I love you.”
It was this pivotal moment when Sadie’s understanding of the word “passion” took on a whole new meaning. It led her to end her toxic relationship, and hold captive the truth that passion does not have to be watered down and tainted like the world portrays it.
“Ever since then, I have noticed that the word passion has a new meaning in my life. It is a passion that is pure, and it is the very thing that fuels me to press past the feelings that rise up and make me fear the future.”
She says it’s this shift in perspective that prompted healing, gratitude, trust and peace amidst something that had once been an intense rollercoaster.
“I no longer live in survival mode or pursue temporary feelings of happiness. I strive to live life the way it was meant to be lived—to the fullest. My story does not end in heart break or death. I have an abundant life full of joy, hope, freedom, and a word I have come to fall in love with…PEACE—which was waiting for me on the other side of trust.”
Sadie says that like many girls her age, she used to make lists of the qualities she’d look for in a potential husband. But no more.
“Now I just write prayers that circle around the list the Lord help[s] me write. My husband will be a man who has practiced and respected patience. He is charmingly and truthfully kind. He is not jealous, because He trusts in the Lord enough to trust in me. He is not boastful or proud because our love speaks in actions. He surely is not rude. Our love most definitely does not demand its own way for we know and long for the Lord to lead our path. He is not irritable when times are stressful. Together we will keep no records of wrong. He dances with me and rejoices when truth wins. His joy carries us through the valleys. In the hard times, he will love even harder. He will help silence my fears, but he will not accept them. He believes in truth over convenience or being comfortable. He feels my cry, is encouraged by my laugh, and joins me in song no matter how off key to worship our father God. He will never give up, because his eyes are on God and not me. He will never lose faith. Even if the whole world is against me, he will be for me because he loves the Jesus in me. He knows a river brings joy into the city of God even when the nations are in chaos. He sits still with me and knows that God is God. He will be able to endure all circumstances, because I will be right there with him holding his hand—striving to do the exact same thing. He will lead me where the Lord is leading him. We will meet at the Lord’s feet.”
She closes by saying that this is the kind of love she’s passionate about. One that radiates Godly passion that is pure, peaceful and greater than any “passionate” thing society could paint up for our misguidance.
“Be expectant and do not lose the passion the Lord creates in you.”
May her words and truth lead you closer to that passion today.