1. Validate her feelings. Ask how she feels instead of assuming. You don’t have to validate drama but let her vent, listen, and hug before you try to explain or fix it away.
2. Show her off. It may seem small to you but even posting a photo on Instagram or taking us out with the boys shows that you’re proud of us and melts our hearts.
3. Pick up your stuff off the floor (husbands!). In other words, do the little things and order your private world. Don’t clock out when you come home, be responsible.
4. Communicate your intentions. In other words, don’t leave her guessing how you feel or what you intend with the relationship. You’re going to have to be a little vulnerable at times, and that is not a weakness.
5. Put yourself second. Biblical leadership is not dominance, it’s service. Love her as Christ loves and as you love your own self. Pray for her and set your pride aside.
6. Hold her accountable. While it’s important to validate her feelings, love her enough to also point her to Truth.
7. Build her up. Women constantly wonder how they measure up to others, and the ones that seem the most put together are often the most insecure. Remind her not only of her outer beauty but of the strong character traits and gifts she has.
8. Be spontaneous. We love when you take initiative and just plan a date. Even if she doesn’t love the activity you choose, she will love that you took initiative.
9. Stand for what’s right. Don’t be fearful of what others think or try to blend in if blending in isn’t right. You love your woman and your God best when you have the confidence to take a stand.
10. Take care of yourself and work hard. When you take care of your health (without being vain about it) and have a strong work ethic, it shows a lot about your priorities. And it shows that you care about her. If you don’t take care of yourself or slack on the small things, it’s hard to take care of someone else because eventually that lack of care will catch up with you—and if you get married (or already are), it’ll fall on her shoulders.
So, simply put: you don’t need to be Prince Charming. You simply need to be disciplined but also dedicated, sensitive, and intentional enough to lead and love like Jesus–especially in the little things. #soulscripts