Gary’s goofy snaps about his wife Liz are kind of adorable.
Gary’s goofy snaps about his wife Liz are kind of adorable.
Does your ideal first date involve seeing the new Star Wars movie the second it comes out or maybe engaging in a little light cosplay? Well now there’s an app for that.
Cuddli wants to help you meet and fall for your fellow geeks. It’s launching on iOS this week, though it’s been available on Android since last year and has already garnered a really positive response from its users.
So why exactly do geeks need their own dating platform?
Pinguino Kolb, one of the app’s founders, told Mashable that those who revel in fandom and comic culture dont always have the easiest time on more mainstream apps like Tinder. Other users, she says, dont understand the passion behind fandom or geekdom, and they can belittle it.
Cuddli is meant to be a space where you’re rewarded for your love of Comic Con or gaming rather than ridiculed. And theres something about the dedication of the geek community that makes this seem far more likely to find an audience than some of the other more specific apps that have hit the market in the past few years.
You don’t have to prove your nerdy credentials to join, so it’s far more inclusive than the purposefully exclusive apps like Inner Circle or The League. Cuddli also lets you put interest icons on your profiles to identify what, specifically, makes you geek out. Then when you see your matches, any shared interests are highlighted to make flipping through them faster.
Cuddli uses GPS matching (just like Tinder and many other apps), but there is no pending list. If someone adds you, you’re out of their sight until you add them back. That reduces the odds that anyone will creepily obsess over you or try to reach out without your consent. You also have to respond to existing match requests before you can start matching with new people.
If you end up hitting it off with someone and want to make it official, the app can be switched into couples mode. That allows you to keep chatting with each other (so all your romantic history isn’t lost), but it doesn’t let you match or chat with anyone else. That way you also know the other person isn’t keeping their options open.
As with any niche app, the key to its success will be getting enough people on board to give everyone a chance to find. Right now their biggest concentration of users are on the west coast (and in Spain, oddly enough), but its available globally.
Only time will tell if this revolutionizes the geek dating scene, but now at least you’ve got one more way to try to find your manga-loving match.
No one will love you until you learn to love yourself is an easy enough phrase to believe is true. But its terrifying, especially when you have depression. What if you never learn? As a teenager, it made me fear for my life as an adult. I was certain I would never be capable of being in a relationship, but I was very wrong. Honestly, I do not like myself very much, and in August of 2013, a boy fell very, very much in love with me.
I have dealt with depression for as long as I can remember. Ive been on and off medications, been to therapy, but its still alive and well, comfortable in its home in my bones. I can feel it every day, a tiny inkling that causes breathtaking emotional pain at the most inconvenient of times.
My depression doesnt care that I am in a relationship with a boy who makes me laugh, tells me Im beautiful 20 times a day, and cares more deeply for me than any other boy has. I am grateful for the nights he holds me while I cry for hours for no reason. I am thankful that he puts up with my random periods of irritability. He constantly attempts to comfort me if I am suddenly uncomfortable when were out in public. He fills me with hope for the future when I lead myself down the darkest of paths, plays with my hair when Im having trouble sleeping, and encourages me to eat when I have no appetite. He takes care of me and I never even had to explain myself. I still consciously think to myself, nine months into this relationship, Wow, someone is in love with me. I often think about how lucky I am to be loved, regardless of my flaws in chemistry.
This intense love is frightening, because every day, I fear that one more thing will push him over the edge. That one more time of me rolling over in bed, teary-eyed, for no reason, could push him away. I know it upsets him, and I reassure him through my salty, blurred vision that its not his fault. I am often overcome with guilt and I hate that my feelings about myself cause any pain on his part. Sometimes he is not easily convinced, but I try as hard as I can with the little energy I have. Some of our nights end in a tight hug and an Im sorry mumbled from my lips, but Im just thankful that he is still happy to wake up to me every morning.
Every day is a struggle. I am constantly on edge, going back and forth between caring too much and not caring at all, wondering when he will have enough. He is quick to remind me how much he loves me, but I am just as quick to be overcome with crippling doubt. We both know that this is how forever will be, and if he hasnt given up yet, Im certain that he is 100% all in.
Never let anyone tell you that you are not worth being loved if you dont love yourself. Never let anyone tell you that your mental illness is the reason why you are not in a relationship. Never let anyone tell you that you should smile more, fix your hair, or wear more color. Never let anyone makes you feel bad about what you cant always control.
Someone will be in love with you regardless of your most comfortable state, and if that happens to be curled up on the floor of your room, crying as you listen to your favorite sad songs, then you have found true love.
When your Aries fell for you, they fell They threw all of themselves into the relationship, full of energy and passion. From the very first time you two met, they were keen on getting close to you, curious about your life and past in a way that no one has been before. Its clear they are totally invested, but their deepest fear is that youll fall out of love with them. See, an Aries flaw is that they sometimes have tunnel visionthey can be so focused on giving you all of their love and affection that they fail to see whether or not youre responding positively to it. They could be loving you so hard, that they love you away. And that is their deepest fear, watching you walk out of their lives after theyve given so much.
Your Taurus lover was just as their sign said they would be stubborn and bull-like, difficult to commit. It was clear they were interested when you first started talking, but understanding their desires, peeling back the layers in their mind, getting to really them took forever. You were often worried that they werent really into you because they were so unsure about committing, but when they finally did, everything seemed perfect. But, in any relationship, there is tension and fear, and your Taurus secret fear is that now that they ve committed, youll lose interest. See, you pursued them, pushed them and stood by them, even when they werent ready. Now that youre on the same level as them, theyre terrified you were only in it for the chase.
Sometimes you watch your Gemini steal the show, captivating everyone with their stories, their laugh, their passion for the world and you love how much energy theyve brought to your life. Whether you match their tenacity, or are their shy counterbalance, your relationship seems to just fit. But what you dont realize is that your Geminis deepest fear is that theyll get bored. See, Geminis love to be intellectually stimulated. Theyre forever chasing the next adventure, the next deep conversation, the next strange or confusing thing they can learn, and though theyll never admit it, their curiosity can make them easily bored by the things and people around them. Though they love you so much, theyre terrified that the two of you will fall into a mundane, methodical existence and they might not have the same passion for your relationship anymore.
Your Cancer is the person you can depend on, the one you can run to when anything is going wrong, the one you would trust with your life. They are dependable, dedicated, and compassionate. But sometimes they can be a little too much. Sometimes your Cancer can be too clingy, wanting to spend all of their time with you or make you the center of their world. This can cause you to pull back, craving your own space and identityand this is where their deepest fear comes in. Your Cancer is scared that theyll be too much, want too much, and hold on too tightly, pushing you away to the point that they lose you altogether.
Your Leo lover is bold, fiercely loyal, and often the boss of your relationship. With their dominant personality, being the center of attention comes naturally. They want to take care of you, and they want to be the one in charge, guiding and making decisions. But sometimes they can smother you with their big personality or arrogant naturethey know this, and this is their deepest fearthat you will mistake their care for selfish desire, or that you wont let them be the protector of the relationship. In many ways, they need to lead; they need to be the one who puts forth their attention and love because they want it reflected back to them in the same manner. But this is what they fear the most, you fighting back and seeing the way they love in the wrong light.
Virgos are the calm figures in the relationship, almost always peaceful and patient. They are thinkers continually processing, analyzing, trying to make sense of whats happening or where your relationship is going. They are guided by their minds, and this is where their biggest fear comes into play. Because they are often lost in their own heads, and tend to fall on the obsessive side with their thoughts, theyre terrified theyll overthink themselves out of the relationship, always finding little things that bother or upset them, or picking fights because of something theyve thought into reality.
Libras can be wishy-washy. Sometimes it seems like theyre totally into you, the next it feels like theyre a thousand miles away, but at the end of the day, you know that they care because when the show you affection, its above and beyond. Your Libra lover will often go to the extreme, sacrificing all of themself to put you first and show you that you matter to them. However, their huge, secret fear is that they are compromising themselves too much in the relationship. As much as they show you they love you, they go back and forth in their true feelings. They want to know that as much as theyre giving, theyre going to get in return thats their biggest fear losing themselves in loving you.
Scorpios enjoy being alone. As emotional signs, they spend a lot of time in their heads, often brooding and analyzing their feelings. When it comes to your relationship, your Scorpio has a handle on who they are and how they feel, and do a great job of expressing that, which brings you two much closer. Their biggest fear, though, is that you wont give them the space they need to be themselves. Because they are so self-aware and contemplative, they need time alone to process. Theyre scared that as this relationship continues, theyre going to have to compromise more of their alone time for couple time, and they arent sure if theyre ready.
Your Sagittarius is a wanderer. They love to discover new things, chase their passions, learn, and have freedom. Tying them down in the beginning wasnt easy, but was so worth it because of the beautiful, explorative relationship you now have. Every day it seems like the bond between the two of you gets stronger, and its obvious your Sag is totally into it. But their secret, deepest fear is that one day they wont be. Theyll never tell you this, but theyre terrified that one day theyll have to choose between their dreams and their relationship, and they might not choose you.
Your Capricorn is driven and serious. They are passionate about the things they do, the dreams they chase, and the way they love you. When they fell for you, they gave you a lot of themselves and this isnt lost on you. Something thats wonderful about them is that theyre always looking to the future, imagining and trying to plan for it. Their deepest fear, though, is that you arent on the same page. They are logical-minded; they take life very seriously and are often scared that you will either be too whimsical for them, or not see the relationship as real as they do.
Aquarius signs are always busy. Theyre helpful, caring, generous, and often supporting people in any way that they can, even strangers. One of their downfalls is that they are never alon ealmost always surrounded by others to the point that it makes you wonder whether theyre really serious about you. They are, but sometimes the fact that theyre always around other people causes a rift between you two. This is where their biggest fear comes in: because of their external relationships, they fear that youll try to control or restrict them. They want to have connections with people outside the two of you, and theyre terrified youll keep them from being who they really are.
Pisces lovers are filled with passion. They are emotional, deep-thinking, and extremely empathetic. Whatever they feel, they feel a thousand times more intensely than you. Thats why its so important to them that you communicate and express your feelingswhen you dont, they start to feel like theyre losing you. This is where their biggest fear comes in. Your Pisces can often be a worrier: stressing, overthinking, and not wanting to upset you. Their biggest relationship fear is that youll mistake their emotions as weak, rather than a product of their heart. They care so much; theyre scared that instead of seeing their feelings and validating them, youll view them as pathetic or insecure.
On the first day of 6th grade, Cheyenne Huller never expected shed meet her soul mate. Like most girls her age, shed met up with her friends at lunch and the three girls dove into excited conversation about cute boys and middle school happenings.
The funny thing is we all pointed out the same person, Cheyenne writes, the animated boy wearing a Carriel baseball jersey in the next tier of tables in the cafeteria. One of my friends said, Hes in my social studies class! His name is like Brandon or Brendan, but he goes by something weirdI think he said Boomer.
And so began Cheyennes fairytale romance.
Like middle schoolers do, a friend of a friend told Boomer that Cheyenne liked him, and that same friend of a friend also gave her Boomers phone number.
On her way to class that afternoon, excited to connect with a boy she likedbut had not yet talked toCheyenne accidentally hit someones butt in the hallway with the back of her hand.
One thing led to another, and a couple weeks later the two were inseparable. Texting non-stop, and connecting over the phone as most 6th grade relationships do these days, Cheyenne now recalls how beautifully their friendship and love blossomed:
Things started off as a typical 6th grade relationship we mostly texted, barely talked, and never got to hang out. However, over the years, things changed and he quickly became my best friend. It turned into knowing each others likes and dislikes better than we know our own, winning cutest couple in 8th grade, driving hours to see me compete for 3 minutes, being able to order for one another, helping each other studying, spending weekends at the hockey rink, working at Outback, visiting and applying to colleges, going on family vacations, talking to recruiters, and being voted Homecoming King & Queen.
It sounds like the total high school romancethe kind that A Walk to Rememberand A Cinderella Storyare made of.
Regardless of the endless amount of doubts from many peers and adults, we made it through all of junior high, high school, and my first year of college together.
Cheyenne admits that the couple has endured their fair share of hard times, but eight years later, theyve managed to stay strong.
This past year was by far the hardest.
As Cheyenne kicked off her sophomore year of college, Boomer swore into the military. He joined the Marine Corps and worked hard through 13weeks of bootcamp to graduate and start his career in the military.
At the beginning of July, Boomer surprised Cheyenne with a visit home.
His first matter of business was to have a conversation with his leading ladys parents. Then three days later, he totally shocked her with a proposal!
On the first day of 6th grade, I remember sitting down at lunch with my two best friends and talking about any cute boys
I could not have been happier to say yes! Heres to many (more) years of happiness with my high school sweetheart!!!
Cheers to this 6th grade relationship that has stood the test of time! May your marriage be full of love, and your life together be nothing short of extraordinary.
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